Why flying monkeys have to be out
When you go no contact- I say when, not IF- if you want a decent life after living with narcs you will have to at some point go no contact. When you go no contact- there is an incredible urge to keep in the flying monkeys. After all- what can be so bad about them? After all- they aren't the ones that hurt you, right? Out of self-respect- you HAVE to let the flying monkeys go as well. The main reason for this is that they are SELFISH. Think about it. They stay in contact with the narc, oftentimes AFTER they know what the narc does and is capable of. Think of it this way, you know those little birds that hang out around hippos in Africa when you watch nature shows? The narc is the hippo- a hippo with a history of crushing the birds underfoot and not caring. Of doing that on purpose. The flying monkeys are the little birds that stick around. They can be crushed at any moment but they refuse to get to safety- because they saw the narc hippo crush you and they didn't CARE. T
