Everything you've ever wished for.....


So true. Coming from a family that's all effed up I thought I found normalcy in rich, white suburbia- HAHA. 

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  1. AnonymousOctober 2, 2013 at 12:20 PM

    Hey Grace, I'm right there with you. When I first met my DH, I was looking forward to having not religious fanatic, not fucked up, good-hearted and positive influences in my life. I thought I'd get some normalcy too. It took me too long to figure it out I was standing on the tracks while the N freight train was barreling towards me.

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