The Joy of No-Contact
There really can be true happiness after leaving an abusive relationship in the past.
For one, the pain you used to feel is less than it was. Time really does put a wall of distance between us and past abuse.
You begin to care less and less about them, their opinions, lifestyles and the very notion that they are alive and well and not dead.
It's hard for N's to fathom that. How could ANYONE really not care about them? Well- we can.
Once you find that peace that comes with distance, it really is liberating to not give a crap about them.
The days you do not think about them or the abuse turn into weeks without thinking of them. Then months and (hopefully) years.
I never thought it was possible, but it is. Years out from the abuse, it really is exciting to realize you can go whole weeks without once thinking of your abusers.
Ultimately, going no-contact gives you the freedom to be YOU. The *you* you never could be with them telling you who to be and how to live your life.
You can enjoy holidays again and maybe even find joy in the little things you used to love that always brought you too much pain associating them with the N's.
The world is brighter without them in it. The peace is greater than you could have imagined.
If you're a believer, going no-contact IS in fact, Biblical.
The Bible tells us (Mark 6:11, Matthew 10:13, Luke 10:11, Acts 13:51) that as believers, we should remove ourselves from situations where people remain in sin, unrepentant of their evil ways. By telling the 12 disciples to 'shake the dust off their feet' and move on, Jesus makes it clear that we cannot remain in stalemate situations.
Remaining in those situations (often in-contact with these toxic people) greatly lessens our emotional and mental stability. How can we be the people we are meant to be and experience all our lives have to offer if we remain in toxic situations?
There's nothing glorified in wasting precious time, resources and effort on unrepentant people.
"Whoever does not receive you, nor heed your words, as you go out of that house or that city, shake the dust off your feet." - Matthew 10
For one, the pain you used to feel is less than it was. Time really does put a wall of distance between us and past abuse.
You begin to care less and less about them, their opinions, lifestyles and the very notion that they are alive and well and not dead.
It's hard for N's to fathom that. How could ANYONE really not care about them? Well- we can.
Once you find that peace that comes with distance, it really is liberating to not give a crap about them.
The days you do not think about them or the abuse turn into weeks without thinking of them. Then months and (hopefully) years.
I never thought it was possible, but it is. Years out from the abuse, it really is exciting to realize you can go whole weeks without once thinking of your abusers.
Ultimately, going no-contact gives you the freedom to be YOU. The *you* you never could be with them telling you who to be and how to live your life.
You can enjoy holidays again and maybe even find joy in the little things you used to love that always brought you too much pain associating them with the N's.
The world is brighter without them in it. The peace is greater than you could have imagined.
If you're a believer, going no-contact IS in fact, Biblical.
The Bible tells us (Mark 6:11, Matthew 10:13, Luke 10:11, Acts 13:51) that as believers, we should remove ourselves from situations where people remain in sin, unrepentant of their evil ways. By telling the 12 disciples to 'shake the dust off their feet' and move on, Jesus makes it clear that we cannot remain in stalemate situations.
Remaining in those situations (often in-contact with these toxic people) greatly lessens our emotional and mental stability. How can we be the people we are meant to be and experience all our lives have to offer if we remain in toxic situations?
There's nothing glorified in wasting precious time, resources and effort on unrepentant people.
"Whoever does not receive you, nor heed your words, as you go out of that house or that city, shake the dust off your feet." - Matthew 10
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