Nature vs. Nurture

Life's not fair. By now, I think there's few of us (probably none of us reading this) that assume a rosy view of the outside world. If you were in contact with an N, related to them or grew up with them- chances are you know this all too well.

Welcome to crazy town, as on the show 'Whose line is it anyway?' I like to say that everything here is 'made up' and the 'rules don't matter'- if you're an N, that is. If you ever wonder whether or not someone is an N- look at the way they handle criticism. Chances are they're not very good at it and it's clear they don't play by the same rules as everyone else is expected to live by!

I've noticed N's have a unique sense of the world around them as dictated by their own skewed perception of reality. They really do live on a different planet. Religion is a cover-up, praying for people is just another reason to pity them and groom them for future victims. There are SO many rules that exist within an N-relationship.

Regarding religion and worldview my in-laws fall into an interesting lifestyle. If I could boil down the facade and lies, the rules to them would sound something like this:

We claim to be devout Christians to anyone and anything that will listen.
We rarely go to church. (or often, depending on who is watching)
When we DO go to church we always do it publicly and make a show of it.
It must be a church of our choosing and liking, if the music is too modern we will sit and scowl through the service as if we had giant sticks up our butts.
We will complain to anyone after how much we hated it and how we are holier than thou to attend such filth.
If someone is in need we will 'pray for them'... and check up on them later to see if we can 'help' them and make them indebted to us financially or otherwise.
We give to the poor and needy but if our children need something it will always be with strings attached.
We make it clear that our home is open to anyone and frequently have visitors. This isn't so that we help others, it's to show them we CAN help them and we are financially in a great place. Again- it's all about grooming and who's in debt to us.
We will show racial preference, but if you call us racists we will make life hell for you.
We show off gifts from those from other cultures but we will badmouth those living in them as heathen.
Those with different beliefs, backgrounds and skin colors are NOT allowed into the family. We can 'befriend' those people but they cannot marry into our tribe. We promote our own ethnicity above others, always.
The belittling of others based on who they are is acceptable- as long as it's outside the family or those we identify with (other N's).
We will cover up for those living with criminal records in our happy family, make excuses for abuse and legally inappropriate behavior.


Gosh. Even writing this makes me mad. It's clear if you are an N- or born one- the rules are different. The rules change as the leader dictates. Which leads me to another question: are N's born or made? I admit I'm not really sure. Of course if someone with selfish tendencies is born into an N-family and considered the golden child, this selfish mindset will be nurtured. The behavior will be fueled. I find it ironic that much of the ACoNs I'm aware of are not the golden child of the family, but the scapegoat. These seem to be the ones most willing to turn against the N-parent when they move out or realize the unfair treatment they've received all their life.

What do you think? Are N's a result of nature or nurture?
If you like, feel free to share more N-rules to live by that the N's you know follow.