Confessions from the Fog

Maybe you're familiar with this analogy already. I have often seen this in relation to the college student. Well, hold onto your horses because I'm totally going to rock your world with a new analogy for dealing with N's. (not really, but if your world is indeed blown open- kudos to ya) My triangle analogy- you can only pick two. Here are your options.  - Mental and physical health  - Your relationship with people you love and who love you (family/friends)  -Your relationship with the N.  But...... No.  That's it.  Now I will add that I only recommend this choice be made after boundaries have been tried. The true test of whether or not someone is a raving psychopath is if they are able to(or unable to) keep to boundaries in order to maintain any semblance of a healthy relationship.  No? Well, then you have to choose.  Orrrrr- you could live the rest of your life in the middle, where you are now (hypothetic...

In order to lay groundwork for future posts, I wanted to highlight a few terms or acronyms I will be using to describe my experiences. ACoN- adult child of a narcissist A narcissistic personality disorder is often overlooked or simply misunderstood, here are a few characteristics of people who may be living with this disorder: A person with narcissistic personality disorder may: React to criticism with rage, shame, or humiliation Take advantage of other people to achieve his or her own goals Have excessive feelings of self-importance Exaggerate achievements and talents Be preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence, or ideal love Have unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment Need constant attention and admiration Disregard the feelings of others, and have little ability to feel empathy Have obsessive self-interest Pursue mainly selfish goals (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001930/) To put it simply: an adult ch...